It hurts when our expectations go in vain. But when the table is turned around and we are the ones being subjected to a certain degree of expectation we cannot meet, it hurts just the same.
Indeed, every individual is unique and different. Some things may just be okay for us and yet others may see them as wrong. We can never fully put ourselves into another person’s shoes. We can never fully feel what the other person is feeling nor see things exactly as they see them.
It is futile to suffer because we cannot wholly understand someone the same way as it is futile to agonize over not being completely understood.
In the end, it is really just a matter of letting go… letting go of expectations including the expectation to be understood.