Letting go and moving on

To love and to be loved can be the most wonderful feeling we can experience. No amount of joy can surpass the happiness that we feel when we are in the arms of the person we love the most. When we are in love, it seems that everything in our life is fine, that everything is on its place. A state of equilibrium and high morale will engulf our whole being.

Somewhere along the way, destiny can be so cruel and take away the person that makes each day of our life a fairytale. Our world would start to turn upside down and we just find ourselves empty and broken. Myriads of things would start pouring into our minds but at the end of the day we are left with the hardest to answer “how could these things happen?” or “where do I start from here?”.

When it comes to love, each of us can has our different story to tell. Nonetheless, all of us can be on the same predicament, which is finding the strength to let go of the feelings that we can’t live without. Though there were those who are able to find their way out of the melancholy of emptiness and despair, many are still trapped or even buried in the tormenting agony of accepting their destiny and learn to let go. Here are a few ways to get over the pain which will hopefully help you move on.

Dwell in the past. Yes, I’ve said it, dwell in the past and let yourself reminisce each moment you’ve spent together. Ironic isn’t it? But sometimes it’s only through allowing ourselves to find painful joy in the broken pieces of our past that we can start to feel tired and willingly wave our hands and give up. When that happens, we can start the next step towards totally letting go. After all, suppressing our feelings and holding back the tears are bad to our nervous system 😛

Commit to accept. It is pointless to say you gave up and after a few days you start to dwell in the past again. You have to decide whether you want your life to be miserable forever by living with the past or start again and find joy. Once you’ve decided, you need to commit to yourself that you will accept your fate. Total acceptance will allow your state of mind to focus on moving on instead of holding on. This will help you learn to appreciate the brighter side of things and eventually lead you to a new dimension in life.

Plan, plan, plan. Divert your mind by planning out a lot of things, things that can keep you busy or excited. Having something to look forward can plant a seed of happiness into your heart. Indulge yourself into activities that you seldom do. Join a charity group, volunteer, engage into sports, adventure trips, organize events, there are a lot to do out there. Doing worthwhile things and the sense of accomplishment you acquire from it will surely pep up your life.

Love yourself. Sometimes, when we fall in love, we tend to neglect ourselves, our personal goals and plans because every move we make seems to consider our beloved. Now is the right time to contemplate on what you really want to do with your life, what you wanted to attain. It is through loving ourselves and getting to know ourselves even more that we can start to move out from the doomed world that covered us. It is through loving ourselves that we can start to find the light again and start a new life filled with excitement, happiness and hope.

I wrote this back in 2009 at Helium which ranked first out of 43 articles on the same topic (as of 1 March 2012). The ranking changes depending on the ratings of other writers. Check the original post here.



17 thoughts on “Letting go and moving on

  1. so touching…,,, hmmmnnn… forgiving is very important… total acceptance is the key… yup,,, memories lives forever pero hanggang doon na lang yon…. there will always be a rainbow after the rain… naa bitaw permi si Lord mag-love… 🙂 🙂 🙂

  2. touching daw ingon nla.. sa akoa ok lang.. some things are just meant to happen.. all we need to do is just accept.. reminiscing the past is good.. past is just past… some past is just worth remembering and not worth to go back again,.. everything happens for a reason.. it hurts, it really hurts,. but it is just a way for us to let go and go on with our life.. we do really need to love our self before we love other people.. 🙂

  3. superlike..hindi talaga madaling makalimot sa mga mapait na pinagdaanan pro its true total acceptance will allow mind to focus on moving on and we should love ourself.it is through loving ourselves that we can start to find the light again and start a new life filled with excitement, happiness and hope.ang buhay talaga…..

    • natural lang ang problema kakambal na yan natin sa buhay,mga challenge lang yan at lalong nagpapatibay kapg walang pgsubok hndi tayo matutu.

    • ako din nakakasalalay sa panginoon awa ng dyos lumaki naman ang 2 ko kahit ako lang at happy akong nakikita ang pglaki nila.sila ang insperasyon.ang asawa marami kang makikita laraine dba?pero ang anak,anak parin natin dba?

    • natural lang ang problema kakambal na yan natin sa buhay,mga challenge lang yan at lalong nagpapatibay kapg walang pgsubok hndi tayo matutu.

    • totoo iyan te chie at saludo ako sa iyo sa pagpapaaral at sakripisyong ginawa mo pra sa iyong mga anak.balang araw cla na ang mg-aalaga sa'yo..god bless always

    • thanks laraine at naintndihan mo ang side naawa lang ako sa mga anak ko kaht papanu sabik din sila na makakausap ang ama kaht pa maraming pgkukulang ang ama,pero dko siniraan ang pgkatao nya.sya mismo lang ang sumira,dinadamay nya ang anak.dahl porke sinabi ko ang mga anak nalang nya ang harapin at kakausapin kung may mai2long sya pasalamatan pa ng anak.kaya lang ako nagagalit dahl hndi marunong 2mupad at puro pangako at kasinungalingan hate pa naman ako sa taong sinungaling.kya walang magandang pa22nguhan ang buhay nya palipat lipat at maghanap na naman dahl wala ng tatanggap sa mga ginawa nya.sori alam kung bestfrnd mo sya.

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